Maureen Renfro's Blog: December 2012

Monday, December 31, 2012

Kanye West Confirmed Kim Kardashian Is Pregnant

Kanye made this announcement last night while performing at Revel in Atlantic City, New Jersey. Kanye said:

"Stop the music and make noise for my baby mama," referring to Kim, who was in the audience.
Shortly after Kanye shared the news, Kim's sisters, Khloe and Kourtney expressed their happiness via Twitter.

Well it wasn't a rumor after all, Kim is 12 weeks pregnant. Congrats to them!

Sunday, December 30, 2012

Mercy Johnson Welcomes A Baby Girl

Mercy Johnson Okojie gave birth to a baby girl yesterday sunday morning in a hospital in the USA. Mother and daughter are said to be doing great. Big congrats to Mercy and her husband.

Saturday, December 22, 2012

Rihanna visit a low-key Barbados Market For Christmas Shopping

In these recession hit times we all know that it's important to support local businesses, but who actually puts their money where their mouth is? Well, Rihanna, that's who... because the boundary smashing pop juggernaut took some of her hard earned cash back to where it all started for her, literally; to the island where she was born.

The Bajan star headed to Bridgetown, Barbados where she shopped (much to the delight of mobbing fans) at a local market and it's adjacent cheap 'n' cheerful shops.

Amber Rose & Wiz Khalifa: Our Son Is Just Going To Know That Daddy Likes To Smoke

E! News asked Khalifa if he was planning to stop smoking, he said: 'I think it's all about how you're raised with it.'

He then added: 'Before there was a much more negative outtake on it. You know, pot and what it can do, and the effects of it.' 'Of course, I'm not going to be smoking right there over the baby, because smoke in general and being high is not good for a kid. None of that. But definitely he's going to know what it is - and he'll know the difference between being a child and not being able to use it and being an adult and knowing how to use it.'

Rose concurred: 'It's just like alcohol, basically. That's how I feel about it, you know. When you're a kid, you know that you're not supposed to drink alcohol, that it's for adults and that's it.'

She added: 'Our son is just going to know that daddy likes to smoke.'

Khalifa has always been honest about his affinity for weed, in 2010, he told MTV: 'I thought weed was bad for a minute. When I was younger, I thought it was bad, but I got to a point where it worked for me. It don't work for everybody else. 

'People gotta stay free, people need jobs, people got parents that probably wouldn't be with it, so don't ruin your life trying to be like me. That's my advice.'

Last week she appeared on stage with Wiz at one of his concerts in Philadelphia.

In front of hundreds of screaming fans, he hugged Amber's baby bump as the heavily pregnant star sat on a chair.

General Common Characteristics In Unhealthy, Sad Relationship

Failed relationship is one of the causes of stress and unhappiness in life. If we cannot maintain lasting relationships, we will always struggle to be happy. If we know why relationships are liable to break down we can avoid the pain involved.

Avoidance - Many people in unhealthy relationships simply avoid facing reality. There are many reasons for this. For instance, deep down inside, the people involved may be trying to make themselves appear superior. Or perhaps they don't
want to face the fact that their spouse really aren't who they say they are. For example, Person A might cover up and make
excuses for his spouse, Person B, who is always late coming home from work and almost always misses family functions.
Person A could be trying to avoid reality and make up excuses to cover up an affair that Person B is involved in so that it doesn't destroy their "perfect image" in everyone's eyes. Or Person A could be avoiding the fact that Person B is a workaholic.

Burnout - Although many can carry out romance throughout their entire relationships, the actual honeymoon period does have to end, in reality. And those who can keep the "love" fires
burning, not 24 / 7 but off and on regularly during their relationship, have better chances of healthier relationships than those who suffer burnout and don't know where to turn or who to turn to unhealthy solutions. In short, every relationship has its highs and lows. During the low times, like maybe when one person begins to feel disillusioned with marriage, or maybe trapped, tired, helpless, depressed or let down, if this person
reaches out to unhealthy alternatives, like getting a fake substitution - maybe seeking another lover in secret, getting "high," or some other negative behavior, once-healthy
relationships can suffer. Instead, the couple needs to face issues together; add some new goals to the relationship, do some fun things together more, talk more, etc.

Compatibility Issues - Opposites attract; or do they? Sure it's great to have some "spice" in your life. But relationships are about getting your needs met - at least on some level. And constant negativity can certainly hinder intimacy. So those who have a difficult time focusing on what attracted them to their
Spouse in the first place can suffer unhealthy, sad relationships, constantly in conflict over issues with which they can't agree.

Devotional Void - A lack of commitment or ardent love can make for unhappy relationships. Being friends or roommates is
one thing. Being committed, loving soul mates is another. Being "in love" 24/7 doesn't necessarily have to be a requirement, but being in a "loving" committed relationship can make the difference.

Enthusiasm Dwindles - If you don't add in some spice once in awhile, you can get the same old, same old. Couples caught up in routines can lose that spark of enthusiasm; i.e. zest of life in their relationships if they forget to be spontaneous once in awhile or forget to flavor their relationship with fun, adventure, romance.

Forgiveness Void - No one is perfect. Mistakes are a part of life. Those unwilling or unable to forgive, can pretty much count on having more unhealthy relationships over time. Relationships based or growing on anger, spite, disgust, resentment or other negative feelings associated with lack of
forgiveness are like wilted flowers. They need tending to or they'll die.

Guise - Simulated relationships or those under the guise of having a solid, happy relationship are not destined for success,
on the whole. Or rather false is as false does. Pretending wears thin and doesn't last long.

Harm - Harmful thoughts, words and actions can sure lead to unhealthy relationships. An occasional outbreak during a stressful moment might be considered normal like swearing; i.e. if someone hasn't been raped, battered (or other sever trauma has occurred) by the other party. However, harmful, violent actions such as those and repeated verbal negativity is
abusive and not healthy in relationships - or life.

Indulgence - Instant gratification or indulgence of unhealthy behaviors is a sign of trouble. Grabbing chocolate to satisfy a
craving is one thing. Grabbing illicit drugs or another mate in secrecy is another. Yielding to unhealthy temptations and desires is a pathway to unhealthy relationships.

Just say yes - Not being able to draw boundaries or sustain limits is another possible path to sad relationships. For
example, if one person in the relationship has a difficult time saying "Yes" and setting limits, his or her mate could always
come in second, third or forth - - rarely first in the other person's eyes and agenda. And while it's fine to take a back seat once
in awhile, people make time for priorities and in healthy relationships, both parties feel and share the value of being number one with one another.

Picking Faults - Whoever we spend time with will undoubtedly have faults. Successful relationships require a certain tolerance of others’ weaknesses. If we keep picking up on the faults of over people, expecting them to change, we create permanent tension. For example, your partner or friend may not share your judgment that they are faults. This does not mean we have to ignore when others do wrong things.

Selfishness- Selfishness is the root of all relationship problems. When we are selfish we think of ourselves first and foremost. We ignore the needs of others and become ego centric. Ego centric people are never easy to live with; they tend to be a drain on relationships. When we are selfish we want the praise, support and backing of others; but, we are not willing to give anything in return.

"Neverland" - Ever heard something like this in an argument, "You never....?" Well trips to Neverland are for Peter Pan. Skip the "always" and "nevers" in arguments and avoid unhealthy relationship issues. It's rare that someone does or does not do something 100 percent of the time.
Memories just seem to fail during opportunistic, stressful episodes sometimes (not always, though!)

Ominous - Bad or ominous feelings, an omen...a feeling deep inside that tells you something is wrong - this often accompanies unhealthy relationships.

Pressure - When one party pressures (or forces) the other to have sex, this is characteristic of an unhealthy relationship.

Questions - Part of communicating is asking and answering questions. If this process causes problems, i.e. even the simplest of questions arouses anger, suspicions, fighting, etc., this is a trait often found with unhealthy relationships. The party who has difficulty answering questions may be hiding
something, dealing with control issues or dealing with substance abuse (or other).

Responds Inappropriately - Some characteristics of unhealthy relationships include playing head games, trying to humiliate, using threats, insults or jealousy. These inappropriate responses suggest unhealthy environment between the couple.

Silence - Silence isn't always golden, as the saying goes. If one person shuns or ignores the other, outside of a solitary or very brief occurrence, this can reflect an unhealthy relationship.

Treatment - If healthcare treatments are being ignored or stopped without the help of a professional; for example, in the
case of stopping anti-depressant medication after a severe (negative) episode (like suicide), this can signal an unhealthy relationship. People need to take care of themselves and not leave everything up to their spouse in relationships.

Untidy / Unkempt - When one or both partners disregards physical appearance for the duration (long-term, not just for a
weekend), this signals an unhealthy relationship. One or both could be abusing substances, for example, or suffering

Verbal Abuse /Violate - When one or both partners use verbal abuse and / or violate or cause harm to the other's person or personal property, things or friends, this can be a red flag for an unhealthy relationship. People should respect each other and each other's property, things and friends. And verbal abuse is not appropriate.

Weapons - Threatening a partner with a weapon, even if it's a household (or other) item used as a weapon is a sign of an
unhealthy relationship.

Xerox - A trait of an unhappy relationship can be when a person is copying another, failing to be himself or herself. Some personality disorders are also characterized by this trait
that reportedly shows up in a number of unhealthy relationships. 

Youthful Outlook / Emotions - An energetic, youthful attitude toward life is one thing. Youthful expectations; i.e. outlook, and
emotions can be characteristic of unhealthy partners. Growing couples need maturity as they grow together and face adult
issues. Childish displays of anger, hostility, selfishness, etc., don't have much place in healthy, growing partnerships.

A healthy strong relationship should be able to cope with constructive criticism and suggestions. However, we need to make sure we don’t become obsessed with noticing bad things. Rather than remembering all the bad things your partner does, make yourself think of some of the good things that they have been doing. Unfortunately, humans often seem attracted to noticing the faults of others, but, it doesn’t help relationships to do this. If you become too critical it will cause long term problems.

Wednesday, December 19, 2012

Kim Kardashian Overshadowing Kanye West

Kanye West has gotten very lot of extra exposure in media lately because of his relationship with Kim Kardashian, and now people say it's hurting his own brand. "His personal life is overpowering his music", an industry source says. "Every time he plays, people are wondering if Kim is going to be there. It's not a good thing for him, especially if he wants to be taken seriously".

Miley Cyrus Gets Some Bare Strippers Ass On Her Birthday

Miley Cyrus had a butt-naked birthday celebration -- latching on to a stripper's bare ass, Miley rang in her 20th last month with a house party in Hollywood ... and sources inside the bash tell said Miley's friends ordered a few strippers, one of whom dropped a booty-shaking lap dance on the birthday girl. Source said Miley couldn't resist, jumped up, hugged the dancer and grabbed her ample butt, which was busy swallowing a pink g-string.  Miley issued a warning tweet before her birthday ... "if I don't get atleast one big booty hoe my friends are officially not my friends anymore".

Tuesday, December 18, 2012

Ray Elbe Fractures Penis During Sexual intercourse

Ray Elbe, MMA Ultimate Fighter, was rushed to a Malaysian earlier this month after breaking his penis during intercourse.

No, really.

The grapper actually discusses the incident in detail, explaining that "blood was everywhere" and he immediately passed out after his girlfriend came down a bit too hard on his erection.

Elbe says he underwent surgery to repair a tear in his urinary tube and has learned to never let his girlfriend be "on top" again.

But there is a sexy silver lining to this  nausea-inducing injury.

"In an attempt to make it up to me ... [my girlfriend] has promised me a threesome of my choice when we get to the Philippines," he says. "Which usually has some solid talent."

So, hey, at least there's that.
Now, if you'll excuse us, we need to cross our legs really tighty for awhile...

Happy Birthday To Brad Pitt!

The actor turns 49 today! Happy Birthday to one of the best looking and most humanitarian actors out there.

NRA Page Been Silent On Facebook After The Shootings At Sandy Hook Elementary School

The National Rifle Association's Facebook page isn't accessible, and its Twitter account is radio silent three days after the shootings at Sandy Hook Elementary School.

Only a Facebook page for the NRA blog remains posted. The last item shared at 6:30 a.m. Friday (before the school shootings) was about the "Friends of NRA" TV show.

On Twitter, Friday was also the last day the NRA tweeted, at 6:36 a.m.: "10 Days of NRA Giveaways — Enter today for a chance to win an auto emergency tool!"

The blog is described as an "official inside look at the NRA's Programs" like "Shooting Championships, National Firearms Museum, Law Enforcement, Education & Training."

The day before, on Twitter, the NRA said: "Did you hear? Our #facebook page reached 1.7 million 'likes' today! Thanks for being a friend!" And posted this picture:

Yet those 1.7 million likes, tied to the NRA's main Facebook page, could not be seen as of Monday night. The group has yet to comment on its page's absence.

It does not appear that Facebook itself took action, one way or another, regarding the NRA page. Online, the NRA's news site continues to be viewable.

No news of Friday's horror in Newtown, Conn., appears on it.

The firearms association is likely to be under heavy scrutiny amid a renewed gun control debate and a push for a new assault weapons ban in 2013.

NRA officials and members have long maintained that gun regulations are unconstitutional, not to mention impractical and ineffective in curbing violence.

Reasons Why Men and Women Cheat

Both men and women cheat for a variety of reasons – due to problems in their relationship, due to their need for intimacy, or because they have a high sex drive.

But, when focusing on sex differences alone - differences based on biology - men and women cheat in different ways. Men are more likely to cheat opportunistically.  That is, more often and with someone who may be less attractive or desirable than their current partner.

Women, by comparison, tend to cheat more selectively.  Women tend to be more flirtatious, risk-taking, and act in sexually provocative ways when they are ovulating.  Women are also attracted to more masculine and physically attractive men when ovulating.

The explanation for this behavior is called the sexy son hypothesis.  The argument goes like this: because women are more limited in their ability to reproduce, women who acted in ways that increased their reproductive success - like mating with the best men available when ovulating – were more likely to have healthy and attractive children.  Possessing this trait or tendency would have led to a reproductive advantage, which would have become widespread over the course of human evolution.

In short, men and women are different.  Women are more likely to cheat up while men are more likely to cheat around.

But it also helps to keep in mind, that while there may be sex differences when it comes to cheating – men and women are more alike than they are different.  Both sexes cheat for a variety of reasons.

Top 10 Reasons Why Women Cheat

1. to fulfill an unmet need for emotional intimacy or a desire close emotional bond

2. dissatisfaction with her spouse

3. dissatisfaction with her marriage or relationship

4. a desire for male attention

5. reaffirmation of her desirability as a woman

6. Priorities - Women may cheat as a means to act out against their spouse's priorities. If a woman is upset that she is not her spouse's biggest priority in life, she may cheat as a means of feeling special. This could be about a spouse who is a workaholic, a spouse who hangs out with his male buddies all of the time, or a spouse who thinks that his mother is more important than his woman.

7. a desire to feel “special”

8. boredom or loneliness

9. feelings of neglect or being taken for granted

10. to re-capture the feelings of romance or passion

A woman will usually attempt to convey her dissatisfaction or unhappiness to her spouse. If he ignores her or takes her complaints lightly, and it becomes clear to her that nothing will change, she will usually have an affair.

Top Ten Reasons Why Men Cheat

1. More sex – the desire for a more active sex life

2. Sexual variety – the desire for different types of sex or a particular sex act

3. Opportunistic sex — he’s presented with an opportunity to have sex without getting caught

4. To satisfy his sexual curiosity about having sex with a particular person

5. To reaffirm his sexuality

6. A feeling of entitlement (the belief that it’s a man’s prerogative to cheat)

7. The “thrill of the chase”

8. Ego embellishment – the desire to feel important or special

9. Peer pressure

10. Sexual addiction

Differences in the Reasons Why Men and Women Cheat

Men tend to cheat largely for sexual reasons, while women cheat for emotional reasons. There are several infidelity studies that bear that out.  A One study, in particular, found that 75% to 80% of the men who admitted to having extramarital affairs said that sex was the primary reason. A Yet, only 20% of the women who were having extramarital affairs said they cheated on their spouses for purely sexual reasons. Of course, top 10 reasons listed above for cheating men and cheating women by no means the only reasons why married men and women cheat on their spouse. As you can see, unhappiness or dissatisfaction is not a major reason why men cheat, but it’s one of the primary motivating factors for women who cheat on their spouse. Many people believe that a happy husband will not cheat on his wife, and that a good marriage or relationship is immune to infidelity.

Monday, December 17, 2012

Kristen Stewart Is Getting A Customized Engagement Ring From Robert Pattinson

This summer's big cheating scandal including Kristen Stewart and her director Rupert Sanders is forgiven and forgotten by Robert Pattinson, and now he's focusing on something completely new. "Robert Pattinson is hard at work creating the perfect engagement ring for his Twilight love, Kristen Stewart, even though she's not pressing him for something spectacular".

"Kristen is not the tupe to wear anything too fancy. But Rob wants something that makes a statement, which means he's got his work cut out finding something that will be original and impressive that she will wear." Insiders says he's "interested in combining rubies and black diamonds", and the idea came to him when he was writing her a song.

Sunday, December 16, 2012

I'm Engaged, Said Kelly Clarkson

Yay, she's engaged! Kelly Clarkson and her boyfriend Brandon Blackstock are set to tie the knot! The singer has announced that Brandon popped the question Friday night, right in time for Christmas! Kelly tweeted, “I’M ENGAGED!!!!! I wanted y’all to know!! Happiest night of my life last night! I am so lucky and am with the greatest man ever :)”

Angelina Jolie: Extreme Plastic Surgery Before Her Wedding!

Angelina Jolie desperately wants a head-to-toe overhaul before her wedding! “Angelina believes she looks old and she’s tired of it,” said an insider and National Enquirer reveals that the actress is undergoing an “extreme plastic surgery makeover before she weds Brad Pitt.” If the sources are to be believed, Angelina has been very depressed about her looks for along time and she “can’t live with the idea of walking down the aisle with wrinkles and lumps.”

Saturday, December 15, 2012

Security Guard Slapped Karen Igho At Smirnoff Party

Winner of 2011 Big Brother Africa Reality TV show and On-Air personality Karen Igho who seems to be one Jovial and free-spirited person was yesterday assaulted by a security guard at the Smirnoff party where she went to support fellow industry friend, Derenle Edun. 

And she tweeted:
“I got slapped at a smirnoff party by a security guard!!! Is it because I’m a woman. He loaded his gun and put it to my face at the car park, said he will shoot me if I don’t give him money.. I said I didn’t have. He slap me!!.
Even my father has never slapped me like this and the loading of the gun to shoot me wow am in shock. Called my lawyer.

Friday, December 14, 2012

Chris Brown And Rihanna Drama

This whole Rihanna-Chris Brown-Karrueche Tran thing has really gone out of control, but we just keep following the drama every single day. We thought Breezy and RiRI were happily back together now, until Chris was snapped partying with scandal girls in Paris - AND hanging out with his ex, Karrueche Tran.

Yesterday Rihanna opened up on Twitter saying: "Never underestimate a man's ability to make you feel guilty for his mistakes", which many of her fans thought was a hint on her split from Chris. She also wrote: "That "very rare" moment when ya wanna get blacked out drunk, but ya got an early morning!!!", along with many bad words. Poor Rihanna, I guess she didn't find love in that hopeless place after all anyway!

The Suspect In The Connecticut School Shooting is a 20 years old Adam Lanza

The suspect in the Connecticut school shootings is Adam Lanza, 20, the son of a teacher at the school where the shootings occurred, a law enforcement official said Friday. A second law enforcement official says the boy's mother, Nancy Lanza, is presumed dead.

Adam Lanza's older brother, Ryan, 24, of Hoboken, N.J., is being questioned by police, said the first official. Earlier, a law enforcement official mistakenly transposed the brothers' first names.

Both officials spoke on the condition of anonymity because they were not authorized to speak on the record about the developing criminal investigation.

The first official said Adam Lanza is dead from a self-inflicted gunshot wound.

According to the second official, the suspect drove to the scene of the shootings in his mother's car. Three guns were found at the scene — a Glock and a Sig Sauer, both pistols — and a .223-caliber rifle. The rifle was recovered from the back of a car at the school. The two pistols were recovered from inside the school.

The official also said Lanza's girlfriend and another friend are missing in New Jersey.

Meanwhile, former Jersey Journal staff writer Brett Wilshe said he has spoken with Ryan Lanza of Hoboken, who told Wilshe the shooter may have had Ryan Lanza's identification.

Ryan Lanza has a Facebook page that posted updates Friday afternoon that read that "it wasn't me" and "I was at work."

Gunshots in Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown (Connecticut)

State police responded Friday to reports of a shooting at a southwestern Connecticut elementary school.

The Hartford Courant, citing police, said an unspecified number of people had been shot at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown.

The nature of their injuries was unclear, the newspaper said. But it cited police in saying one person had “numerous gunshot wounds.”

All schools in the city were on lockdown Friday as police assessed the situation, state police spokesman Lt. Paul Vance said.

Newtown is about 60 miles north of New York.

Lord have mercy.

9 Thing You Need To Relax About

When it comes to the following, you need to chill out, change your thinking, and adjust your approach. The world isn’t just the way it is. It’s how you understand it to be.

1. The few things that aren’t going right. – When things go wrong, take a moment to be thankful for all the other things that are still going right.  And if you’re struggling to be thankful for what you have, be thankful for what you have escaped.  Sometimes the best gifts in life are the troubles you don’t have.

2. Trying to label everyone and everything. – Sometimes you’ve just got to take people and situations for what they are, appreciate them, and not try to label them or change them.  This unconditional acceptance doesn’t mean you’re giving up your freewill or waving the white flag – that’s quitting.  Instead, it means you’re willing to let go of who you think people should be and how you think things are supposed to be, so you can fall in love with who they truly are and how life really is.

3. Worrying about what everyone else thinks. – The minute you stop overwhelming your mind with caring about what everyone else thinks, and start doing what you feel in your heart is right, is the minute you will finally feel freedom.  In fact, you can end half your troubles immediately by no longer permitting people to tell you what you want.  You have to put your life in your own hands.  Others may be able stop you temporarily, but only you can do it permanently.

4. Wasting time on the wrong people. – You cannot make someone respect you; all you can do is be someone who can be respected.  The rest is up to them.  No matter how much you care some people just won’t care back.  It’s not the end of the world.  At some point you have to realize the truth – that they no longer care or never did, and that maybe you’re wasting your time and missing out on someone else who does.

5. Old wounds and grudges. – You will never find peace until you learn to finally let go of the hatred and hurt that lives in your heart.  In order to move on, you must know why you felt the way you did, and why you no longer need to feel that way.  It’s about accepting the past, letting it be, and pushing your spirit forward with good intentions.  Because nothing empowers your ability to heal and grow as much as your love and forgiveness.

6. Superficial judgments. – We don’t know most people half as well as we believe we do; and truly knowing someone is a big part of what makes them attractive.  Every human being is beautiful; it just takes the right set of eyes to see it.  The more you mature, the more you will be able to look beyond another person’s appearance and see the beauty of who they really are.

7. Letting small disagreements snowball out of control. – Don’t let a single poisonous moment of misunderstanding make you forget about the countless lovable moments you spent together.  If you’re angry at someone you love, hug them and mean it.  You may not want to hug them, which is all the more reason to do so.  It’s hard to stay angry when someone shows that they love you, and that’s precisely what happens when we hug each other.

8. Showing a lack of self-respect. – Decide this minute to never again beg anyone for the love, respect, and attention that you should be showing yourself.  Be your own best friend.  Trust your inner spirit and follow your instincts.  Be the person you will be happy to live with for the duration of your life.  Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of passion and possibility into a blaze of victories.

9. Thinking that now is the wrong time. – This isn’t the wrong time and place, because you can make it the right time and place.  Today is the first day of a new beginning – the conception of a new life.  The next nine months are all yours.  You can do with them as you please.  Make them count.  Because a new person is born in nine months.  The only question is: Who do you want that person to be?

Steps To Heal A Broken Heart

The searing pain of a failed relationship is the greatest suffering many of us will ever experience. Using this unique 10 step method, you can remove emotional pain and feel free to enjoy life fully again - in days.
Accept that you will have to go through some pain. It is an unavoidable truth that if you loved enough to be heartbroken, you have to experience some suffering.

When you lose something that mattered to you, it is natural and important to feel sad about it: that feeling is an essential part of the healing process.

The problem with broken-hearted people is that they seem to be reliving their misery over and over again. If you cannot seem to break the cycle of painful memories, the chances are that you are locked into repeating dysfunctional patterns of behaviour. Your pain has become a mental habit. This habit can, and must, be broken.

This is not to belittle the strength of your feelings or the importance of the habits you've built up during your relationship. Without habit, none of us would function. But there comes a time when the pain becomes unhealthy.

When you enter your bedroom at night, you switch on the light without thinking. If you obsess about your ex, and feel unhappy all the time, it's likely that your unconscious mind is 'switching on' your emotions in exactly the same way.

Without realising it, you have programmed yourself to feel a pang of grief every time you hear that tune you danced to, or see your ex's empty chair across the kitchen table.
Now you have to break those connections. Turn off the music that reminds you of your ex. Make your home look and feel different from when your loved one was around. Move the furniture.

Take up a new activity. And keep moving: exercise is the single most effective therapy for depression.

The point of these changes is to break up the old associations and give yourself a new environment for your new life. The changes you make don't have to be permanent. Even if it is just using a different shampoo and deleting your ex's number from Your phone, facebook, twitter or blackberry, change something. Now.
The next step is to do the same thing on the inside - transform your habits of thought. In a relationship, we build up a huge array of such habits. When the love affair ends, these patterns can still be running.

To change your thinking habits, you need to understand a little more about them.

Have you ever witnessed the same event as someone else, and later found out their account of it was completely different from yours? Each of you saw the event through a 'frame', made up of your personal beliefs, feelings and internal habits.

If you are finding it devastatingly difficult to handle the end of your relationship, you may need to change this 'frame'. You will need to reframe your heartbreak. Stop seeing it as the end of your happiness. Instead, turn it into a challenge; view it as an opportunity.

Being heartbroken can make you feel worthless and hopeless - but that is because the frame you are using is too narrow. Learning to see your situation with a different frame is a wonderful liberation.
The following exercise will help you look at your circumstances from different points of view, so you gain helpful insights.

1. Think about the break-up of your relationship. What are the judgments or generalisations you have made about yourself and your ex?

2. Now think of someone you admire - a character from history or a real friend. Imagine they are watching a movie of this part of your life, and step into their shoes to watch it instead. Imagine what their comments would be.

3. Now imagine that a neutral observer is watching the movie of your life. Step into their shoes and watch it from there.

4. Notice the differences that you see from each point of view. Which ones are helpful? Which ones make you feel better? Use these perspectives to view your relationship in a new light.

People who get over difficulties well rarely see what has happened to them as a disaster. They frame it as a challenge. It is a matter of a point of view. It is not what happens to us, but how we interpret it that determines the outcome for us.
The next stage is to focus on your mental picture of your lost love. By changing how you represent your ex in your mind, you can greatly reduce or even eliminate your distress.

You must learn to control your 'visualisation'. Every single one of us makes pictures in our imagination - and we can all learn how to change the pictures. It is important to learn to do this, because our bodies react to what we imagine in the same way that they react to what is actually happening to us. Memory and imagination affect our feelings in the same way as reality does.

We are constantly altering our state by the pictures we make in our imagination and the way we talk to ourselves. So it is vital to control those pictures and not let them run away with our feelings.

1. Answer the following question. Which side of your front door is the lock on? To answer, you have had to make a mental picture of the door. You have made a visualisation.

2. Now try to imagine what your front door would look like if it was bright orange or had yellow stripes down it. Make it bigger. Move it away so that it is smaller. Move it further away and down a bit so you are looking down on it. Make it open. Change it in different ways.

3. Think about your ex now. As soon as you remember what someone looks like, you are using visualisation. What is the expression on his or her face? Observe what your ex is wearing and what he or she is doing. Where do you see the picture of them? In front of you, or to the left or the right? Is it lifesize or smaller? Is it a movie or a still image? Is it solid or transparent? Now, as you keep that image in your mind's eye, notice the feelings that arise. Make a note of those feelings.

4. Now you could remember or imagine them differently. You can imagine you are a great film director. You can reshoot the scenes of your memory and imagination in any way you want. You can change the action, soundtrack, lighting, camera angles, framing, focus and speed. Change how you are visualising your ex and notice how it affects your feelings.

5. Bring to mind the picture you had of your ex.

6. Notice where it appears and how big it is.

7. Now drain the colour out until it looks like an old black and white picture.

8. Move the image further away until it is one-tenth of its original size.

9. Shrink it even further, right down to a little black dot.

10. Notice how your feelings have changed and compare how you feel now to the note you made earlier.

You will notice that some changes have a bigger effect than others. Images that are closer, bigger, brighter and more colourful have greater emotional intensity than those that are duller, smaller and further away.

Standing outside your memories and watching as if they were a movie helps you distance yourself from them.
Now you are ready to tackle the central problem using the visualisation technique. Part of being heartbroken is the fact that you still feel in love. It hurts because part of you is still attached to your ex. This exercise helps that piece of you release itself.

1. List five occasions when you felt very in love with your ex. List them so you can easily call them to mind.

2. Start with the first of those memories. Play with it. Move the image away from you so that you can see yourself in the picture. Make it small.

3. Drain out the colour so it is black and white, then make it transparent. When you look at your memory like this, it will seem as if the event is happening to someone else, and the emotional intensity will be reduced still further. You are starting to re-code your memory.

4. When you have finished re-coding the first memory, do the same for the next one. Work through them until you have done all five.

5. Remember in detail five negative experiences with your expartner, where you felt very definitely put off by him or her. List the five experiences.

6. Take the least appealing memory and fully return to that moment. Try to relive it.

7. Now turn up the colour and the clarity. Make the memory as bright and clear as you can, and experience the feelings more and more strongly.

8. Go through each of the other four negative memories of your ex-partner, and relive them. Carry on until even thinking about them puts you off.

When you think about the bad experiences again and again, the negative memories begin to join up so that there is no space between them for the feelings of love, yearning and regret.

Concentrate on the exercise and do it methodically. Some people have found that doing this just once makes them feel different. To make sure the effect sticks, do it every day for two weeks.
The next stage is to learn to understand your emotional reactions better. Your feelings of heartbreak are unlikely to disappear unless you cope with what they are trying to tell you.

An emotion is a bit like someone knocking on your door to deliver a message. If you don't answer, it keeps knocking until you do open up.

Opening the door to your feelings means learning to understand them. This can be hard, because heartbreak is complicated by other feelings: anger, fear and shame.
You could fall into the trap of remaining convinced that your ex is the only person you could ever love. This is unlikely to be true on a planet with six billion people.

So why do you believe it? Can it be because you are desperately trying to avoid accepting that the relationship is over? Or are you afraid that the bad feelings associated with heartbreak will never go away?

That fear makes you anxious, and keeps you feeling bad for longer. The burden of your heartbreak has grown heavier, and a vicious circle has been established.
A good way of giving yourself a boost - and coping with complicated feelings - is to imagine a bright future.

1. Imagine the future as a corridor in front of you. Imagine walking down it, away from the present, towards a door.

2. Open the door, and see beyond it a world in which you have recovered from your heartbreaking relationship.

3. See what you look like, what you are wearing, where you are going, whom you are seeing.

4. Now step into this new world and into the new happy you. Imagine the whole experience from the inside, seeing what you would see, hearing what you would hear, and feeling how good and happy things are now.

It is not a matter of believing the image is real: just imagine it as vividly as possible.

In heartbreak, there is often a backlog of emotional learning to get through. Do one bit at a time. Your unconscious mind will protect you, and give you a rest so that you can deal with the next bit. You will learn to step out of the memories, leave them behind, and start a new life.

Thursday, December 13, 2012

Convicted Murder Dana Martin Plot To Kill And Castrate Justin Bieber!

Celebrities have all kinds of crazy people going after them every single day, but this must really be one of the most insane things we've ever heard! A convicted murder named Dana Martin plot to kill and castrate Justin Bieber.

Dana is currently serving two life sentences in New Mexico for killing and raping a 15-year-old girl in Vermont 12 years ago. He has been obsessed with Bieber for a while and everything was revealed when the police caught him planning the murder. Justin's manager has spoken out about the threat: "We take every precaution to protect and insure the safety of Justin and his fans". Poor Justin, it must be terrifying to have such a crazy person obsessed with him!

Wednesday, December 12, 2012

Kate Moss Stumbles While Walking Her Dog, Wrong Shoes Maybe

Kate Moss and Jamie Hince walking their dog, Archie in Highgate today when suddenly Kate stumbles over in her high heels and falls to the ground. Well, in those heels we're not surprised... Maybe not the best choice of shoes over all when out walking dogs. Anyway, hope you're OK, Kate!

Dbanj Is Officially The African Michael Jackson

Global recording company Sony Music Entertainment is proud to announce the signing of Nigerian superstar D’Banj to its RCA Africa label. The breakthrough deal also includes a multi-album, worldwide exclusive contract with emerging Nigerian singer-songwriter star Kayswitch and a strategic partnership with D’Banj’s Nigerian record label DB Records, who’s catalog includes artists and producers such as J.Sol, Jay Sleek and DeeVee.

Davido and Unknown Female: Under The Duvet

Picture of super star davido with an unknown female as been trending since afternoon on twitter... Looks like every girl wanna have a piece of Davido or rather a piece of his money. Never the less the super star Davido looks cute when he is sleeping with his mouth opened hehehehe.

Tuesday, December 11, 2012

Daniel Radcliffe, Emma Watson and Rupert Grint Are Filming A Ninth (Super Secret!) Movie!

Another Harry Potter movie on the way, with all the cast from the original movies such as Daniel Radcliffe, Emma Watson and Rupert Grint! The eight big-screen movie was supposed to be the final one, but now they're all set for another short movie. The new "mini movie" will be featured in the new theme park The Wizarding World of Harry Potter and will premiere in 2013 in California and in 2016 in Japan.

Monday, December 10, 2012

Amber Rose: Having Her Lil Wizzy Listening To The Beats Of Her Rapper Fiancé

Expectant mothers often play classical music for their unborn babies, hoping that the sonatas and symphonies will start their tot down the path to child prodigy-dom. So what effect do Wiz Khalifa tracks have?

You’d think that the scribbling on her belly is yet another baby bump tattoo, but I have a hunch that the name of Wiz’s latest album, O.N.I.F.C. (a.k.a. Only N—a in First Class), which dropped on Dec. 4, might just be drawn on with marker. That’s probably for the best.

A Fully Clothed Rihanna Is Becoming A Rare Sighting

Rihanna saw sense and covered up for a spot of ice skating with her girlfriends over the weekend.

Just in case her bobble hat and duffle coat didn't keep the cold at bay, Rihanna had a handy bottle of Jack Daniels to keep her warm. "The liquor kept us warm."

Just a day after her fun on ice, Rihanna shared a photo of herself in the arms of a male thought to be Chris Brown.

Looking blissfull happy with her head resting on a heavily tattooed arm, she captioned the black and white picture with: "Damn....... I miss my nigga #thuglife #BFFlife"

Saturday, December 8, 2012

This Is Really Funny, Try To Guess What Happens When You Google “Dying Grandparent”

When you google "dying grandparent," you get...

When you google "dying grandparent," you get... 

...a bunch of pictures of Christina Aguilera: 

...a bunch of pictures of Christina Aguilera:

Christina's reaction:

Christina's reaction: 

You don't believe me? Try it


People You Won't Believe Actually Exist

These people are really out there somewhere in this world.

This guy riding the bus.

This guy riding the bus.

This person wearing whatever this is.

This person wearing whatever this is

This person in a cow costume.

This person in a cow costume.

This woman wearing these tights.

This woman wearing these tights.

This woman who is also maybe a witch.

This woman who is also maybe a witch.

This woman taking a selfie.

This woman taking a selfie.

This woman who tucked her tatas into her pants.

This woman who tucked her tatas into her pants.

This bro who is also maybe a witch.

This bro who is probably a witch

This dude planking on a tiger.

This dude planking on a tiger.

This kid eating pizza with chopsticks.

This kid eating pizza with chopsticks.

This cheese model.

This cheese model.

This girl blow drying her teeth.

This girl blow drying her teeth.

This girl eating her own fist.

This girl eating her own fist.

This guy who shaved his chest like this.

This guy who shaved his chest like this.

This dude.

This dude

This grandma at the grocery store.

This grandma at the grocery store.

This grandma.

This grandma.

This person with these toenails.

This person with these toenails.

This girl who is also a cat.

This girl who is also a cat.

43 People You Won't Believe Actually Exist

This woman who tried to ride an escalator in a wheelchair