Maureen Renfro's Blog: Dos & Don't And 6 Pros & Cons Of Dating Older Men

Sunday, January 20, 2013

Dos & Don't And 6 Pros & Cons Of Dating Older Men

  •  Pros And Cons Of Dating Older Men

1. Less likely to play mind games: If he’s in his forties or fifties, you won’t have to wonder “Does he like me? Why is he blowing hot ‘n’ cold? Did I do something wrong? Why isn’t he returning my bloody calls?!” There’s the exception to the rule, but 99% of the time he will implement a strict “No BS Rule.” In other words, if he likes you, you’ll know. If he wants to see you, you’ll know. If he’s feeling unsure about you, you’ll know. Older men want more than an occasional booty call so chances are, he’ll take you and the relationship seriously.

2. Has a ton of Sexual Experience:  With years of practice, older men have made perfect and mastered the art of the female anatomy. If he was ever shy in the bedroom, that age difference gave him enough time to get over those fears, refine his bedroom skills and turn into your personal Karma Sutra. They’re all about giving and giving, and pleasing and pleasing. They’re patient, take their time and, most importantly, pay attention to your body,which is saying a lot considering younger guys are often too eager to finish the job!

3. Financially stable and has a set career: Generally speaking, older guys are usually well-established and in a better financial position than their younger counterparts. What does this mean to you? Cha-ching! Ha—just kidding! But it’s safe to say, older guys take pleasure making you feel secure in the relationship, plus it always feels nice when a guy lavishes you with presents like flowers and candy.

4. Full of wisdom and life experience: Dating an older guy has always afforded me the opportunity to learn new things—they have so much life experience that it’s only natural to be intrigued by the many lessons they’ve learned over the years. Not only will he be full of information, but great advice too!

5. Isn’t afraid to tell you what he wants: I love a confident man—I mean, who doesn’t? There’s just something sexy about a guy who knows he’s a catch and isn’t afraid to show it. While younger guys confuse confidence with arrogance, older guys know the difference and know when to turn the charm button on. Older guys aren’t afraid to get what they want or tell you what they want, which is great because if he’s just looking to have a casual relationship or something more long term, he will definitely make it clear.

6. Ages like a fine wine: What do George Clooney, Brad Pitt and Richard Gere have in common? Like a full-bodied red, they simply have gotten yummier with age! Time has made these hotties distinguished rather than boyish, which is even better in our book. That salt ‘n’ pepper hair and sophisticated dress code are just a few of the things that make these silver foxes so, well, foxy!

  • Dos and Don't  Of Dating Older Men

DO relish in the fact that guys get better looking with age, but you’ll always be the hot, younger girlfriend.

DON’T complain about turning “halfway to 30” when he’s “one year ‘til 50”. Or, you know, some version of whining about your age.

DO let him be the man. With age (often) comes maturity and chivalry—take advantage!

DON’T make your man feel older than he actually is (or date yourself).

DO be lovey dovey, but DON’T nickname him something based on his age. Does any man really like to be called your Sexy Silver Fox?

DON’T always assume the guy is just in it to “hit it and quit it”. Yes, there are guys who want to date you simply because you’re young, fresh meat, but that doesn’t mean all older men are just looking for a good time or notch on their belt.

DO treat the relationship the same as you would with a guy your own age. There’s already enough pressure when it comes to dating, why add more stress and think about the age thing if you really like this dude? Just go with the flow.