http://www.addurl.nu/ Maureen Renfro's Blog: How To Deal With A Jealous Boyfriend & A Jealous Girlfriend

Wednesday, March 27, 2013

How To Deal With A Jealous Boyfriend & A Jealous Girlfriend


So you and your boyfriend/girlfriend have been going together for a while now. You’re both infatuated with one another and having the time of your lives when suddenly the old green eyed monster appears and takes its toll! Coping with a jealous boyfriend/girlfriend can be difficult. The sense of being constantly monitored and put under suspicion can kill all of the wonderful feelings that made you two fall in love. Dealing with jealousy in a relationship is a problem known to millions across the world. You don't want to lose your partner, but they're getting out of control. Below are some great tips on how to deal with a jealous boyfriend/girlfriend.

How To Deal With A Jealous Boyfriend

1. DON’T DEAL

 A relationship is supposed to be built on trust. If your boyfriend is acting jealous without a good reason then maybe the best thing to do is move on to prevent yourself from having to deal with the baggage.

2. WHAT IS THE ISSUE?

You can’t fix a problem until you figure out what the problem is! Why is he jealous? Did he have a troubled childhood and is needing to feel accepted? Did he have a bad past relationship and wants to prevent the same things from re occurring? Try to find out where the problem lies.

3. ACCEPTING THE ISSUE

Ask yourself if you really love him. If you do love him and want the relationship to work then you’re going to have to learn to accept his insecurity and find ways to change it. You’re going to have to accept it considering you knew it before you got too involved. Accepting it means not yelling or arguing about it with your boyfriend.

4. LISTEN TO HIM

With determining the problem you’re going to have to listen. You’re never going to understand why he is jealous unless you listen to what he has to say. In turn this will help you learn more about your jealous boyfriend and how to handle his insecurities.

5. TALK ABOUT IT

Arguing is only going to make the situation worst. He is ultimately jealous due to his fear of you leaving him. If you express your feelings assertively to him and not aggressively there is a good chance his attitude will change in your favor.

6. BE OPEN WITH HIM

Don’t hide things from him. Hiding things from one another will only create a tension that in turn will cause friction like him being a jealous boyfriend. It’s always best to be honest and open about how you feel to prevent any surprises or arguments in the future.

7. SET RELATIONSHIP RULES

This works Vice Versa! Establishing a set of ground rules in a relationship is a good way to allow the other the knowledge of knowing what buttons not to press! If the couple truly cares about one another and follows the set rules it will prevent a lot of arguments!

8. BUILD HIS CONFIDENCE

Make him feel good about himself! Hearing compliments from you and understanding that you truly care about him will make him start to feel more confident With his new found confidence he will start to see other situations as less of a threat to his bond with you.

9. INVOLVE HIM

Involve him in your life. Involving him in more aspects of your life will show him he has no reason to be paranoid.

10. REVERSE PSYCHOLOGY

If you have tried everything you can think of and all has failed try giving him a dose of his own medicine. Act jealous for stupid reasons. After he is showing signs that you’re actions are bothering him explain to him that’s how you feel when he acts that way. Maybe then he will see how silly he was acting and change for the better.

How To Deal With A Jealous Girlfriend

1. FIGURE OUT WHY YOUR LOVED ONE IS JEALOUS

This will be a big help towards solving the problem, and also show her that you care about her. Jealousy most often results from insecurity and from painful experiences that occurred in the past. Your girlfriend probably understands that her behavior is irrational, but unless you assist her in changing her mindset, the situation will remain the same.

2. BE PATIENT

Being patient, open and persistent is essential, if you want to improve your relationship with a jealous girlfriend. You need to undertake several basic steps to show her that she is appreciated and that you will remain faithful.

3. TALK TO HER ABOUT THE PROBLEM

Pretending that your problem does not exist can never make the situation better. The only manner to deal with a jealous girlfriend is to confront her. Ask her about her feelings, the negative experience and emotions that have affected her in such way. Try to gently find out more about her relationship history and to discover the reason for her jealousy. Only when you know what caused it, you can take steps to make her feel better and more confident in your relationship.

4. NEVER PRESSURE HER INTO TALKING

She might need some time to start trusting you and to confide in you. Probably her story is painful. Or she has other reasons to withhold information. Just be there for her. Sooner or later she will feel comfortable enough talking about painful issues.

5. BUILD HONESTY AND TRUST IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Sit down and discuss your understandings of honesty and relationship trust. Once you discover each other’s thoughts, you can set clear rules about fidelity and unacceptable behavior. Ask her about her ideas of fidelity and let her know that you are willing to comply with her understandings. Defining the boundaries will make her feel more comfortable and protected. It will demonstrate your willingness to work on relationship trust and to maintain the honesty that you have managed to build.

6. HELP HER BUILD HER CONFIDENCE

If your lady lacks self-confidence, she will naturally be jealous of women that she considers prettier and sexier. Make sure that you show her on a daily basis how beautiful and loved she is. A woman who feels appreciated and desired will be happy in her relationship.

7. HELP HER BUILD HER SELF-ESTEEM

If she feels confident in herself, she will feel confident in your fidelity.

8. SPEND TIME WITH HER

If you shower her with attention, she will have nothing to be jealous about, will she?

9. TREAT HER LIKE A PRINCESS

Tell her how attractive she looks. Whisper in her ear that her body looks amazing in this new dress. Know how to pamper your girlfriend and how to make her feel special.

10. WHEN YOU GO TO PARTIES OR EVENTS WITH FRIENDS

Make her feel like she's a part of the party,
acknowledge her and maybe tell some friends about her recent accomplishments. This will assure her she has no reason for being jealous and make her feel like you care.