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Friday, January 16, 2015

I Tolerate Infidelity & Never Expect Or Demand My Man To Be Faithful -Yeni Kuti


Yeni Kuti , the first daughter of the late Afro beat legend, Fela Anikulapo-Kuti, and the manager of his properties, including the Afrika Shrine, opened up in a new interview with the Nigerian Tribune ,the now single mother of one opened up on how Polygamy changed her views on infidelity..

What did growing up in a polygamous setting teach you about marriage?

Growing up in a polygamous setting made me more tolerant of the infidelity of men.
 Did your views on marriage change after that?
Well, I still got married, but I did not expect my husband to be faithful. I didn’t demand or expect it. If he was unfaithful, it would not cause any fight between us.
 So what could cause misunderstanding between yourself and your man?

I hate lazy men a lot. But the African society has put women at the receiving end one too many times. For instance, if a woman doesn’t give birth, all eyes will be on her, while no one will even point a finger at the man, and it might be the man who is sterile, while the woman is very fertile. I think we women need to fight for our rights more.
 Do you think the African woman has equal rights as it is in the nation today?
We have more rights, yes, but equal rights? I don’t think so.
Why did you say so?
When I tried to buy a gun, they said they don’t sell guns to women.
 Why did you try to buy a gun?
Armed robbers had attacked us at home and I needed a gun to protect myself.
 But can you shoot somebody?
Ah, if my life or my child’s life is in danger, yes I will fire the culprit without thinking twice. Even when I did gun practice a while ago, it was very interesting, because I was able to see how people become killers, as one gets a lot of power holding a gun. But unfortunately, I wasn’t allowed to own one. Meanwhile, men can own guns. Funny enough, I believe we women are the stronger sex. A man cannot take a broken heart the way a woman would. A woman will take a broken heart and move on. An average man will not recover from a broken heart for years.