http://www.addurl.nu/ Maureen Renfro's Blog: September 2012

Sunday, September 30, 2012

Lindsay Lohan Blasts Dr. Phil on Twitter


Seems the excuse-making shoe is now on the other foot as Lindsay Lohan is now defending mother Dina and her insane interview with Dr. Phil placing the blame squarely on his shoulders. Dina seemed completely out of it during her interview with Dr. Phil that aired earlier this month, swearing she was not drunk. Lindsay came to her mother's defense on Twitter yesterday, saying Dr. Phil should be "ashamed" of himself and calling him a "fraud" and a "bully."Apparently those are all buzz words in the Lohan Guide to Excuses and Blame Shifting.

Justin Bieber Throws Up on Stage ***Be careful watching this video if you have a weak stomach.***


Justin Bieber must have come down with a real severe case of Bieber Fever last night in Glendale, AZ ... because in the middle of his concert ... he PUKED ON STAGE!!!The show was the first on his new "Believe" tour and even though he was forced to leave the stage twice due to illness, the show went on. Bieber apologized to the crowd for being sick, but the crowd didn't seem to mind too much and cheered him on throughout.

Ayo Wins Project Fame Season 5!


Ayobami Ayoola Ayolola better known as AYO for short has emerged as the 5th winner of the very popular Project Fame West Africa talent show.

Rihanna Wears Pyjamas To Jay-Z's Nightclub Lauch


The 24-year-old headed to Jay-Z's new nightclub launch in Brooklyn friday night and we're all for celebrating , but I'm a bit on the fence about Rihanna’s getting-ready-for-bed time outfit. A little bit to matchy-matchy.

Rick Ross & Young Jeezy -- Fight at BET Awards, Shots Fired


A fight broke out backstage at the BET Hip Hop Awards lastnight between Rick Ross and Young Jeezy that resulted in shots being fired .. Ross and Jeezy exchanged words backstage and started pushing and shoving each other. BET security and bodyguards for each of the rappers eventually separated the two. After the fight had been broken up, a member of Rick Ross' entourage pulled out a gun while in the parking lot and shots were fired. Jeezy and Ross are still at the awards, which was taped lastnight in Atlanta and air next month. A spokesperson for the Atlanta Police Department said, "Shortly after 7:15 pm Saturday, a fight broke out in the parking lot at the Atlanta Civic Center (where the BET Awards were being taped) between two groups. Atlanta Police Department officers on scene responded to break up the fight and used OC spray in the process. Individuals fled the scene. There were no arrests or reports of serious injuries. Reports of shots fired appear to be untrue. Maintain shots were fired. 50 Cent got into it with a rapper named Gunplay, a protégé of Rick Ross. Can't they all just get along?

Arnold Schwarzenegger Finally Admits Affair With Brigitte Nielsen

The former California governor said in his memoir that he and Nielsen had a fling while he was already knee-deep in relationship with Maria Shriver.

Arnold Schwarzenegger was true to his words when he said he would not censor anything in his new autobiography, "Total Recall: My Unbelievably True Life Story". The actor admitted that he had an affair with actress Brigitte Nielsen while he was living together with Maria Shriver. 


In his book, Schwarzenegger recalled a "hot affair" when he and Nielsen were filming "Red Sonja" together back in 1985. However, he realized at that time that it would not last and the affair only made him convinced that he wanted to marry Shriver. 

Nielsen herself has talked about the fling in her own tell-all book. She said they had an "outrageous affair" but she claimed she did not know that Schwarzenegger was in relationship with someone else until later. The actress went on marrying Schwarzenegger's best friend Sylvester Stallone in 1985 but divorced from him two years later. 

Saturday, September 29, 2012

Kristen Stewart Comes Back to Los Angeles After Paris Trip

                                             Kristen Stewart
Kristen Stewart is back in Los Angeles.
The Twilight star arrived at LAX Friday after modeling clothes at the Balenciaga show during Paris Fashion Week.
This time Stewart opted for casual gear, wearing jeans, a white T-shirt and sneakers as she left the airport.
So, was Stewart heading back to Robert Pattinson, who spent last weekend attending Emmy parties?
Kristen Stewart lands in Paris solo
The jury is still out on that one.
But as reports continue to circulate that K.Stew and her Twilight co-star are back together again, moving vans were spotted Thursday outside of the L.A. home they once shared.
                                U-Haul, Robert Pattinson, Kristen Stewart

Bad spelling in post-date texts can ruin your potential relationship

                            Bad spelling in post-date texts can ruin your potential relationship

 A third of singles surveyed admitted that they would be put off by their potential partners based on the content of their post-date text 

British singles spend an average of fourteen and a half minutes writing that first post-date text, a new survey has been revealed. This is because texting has become a vital part in the new era of dating, with almost a third of singles surveyed admitting that they would be put off by their potential partners based on the content of their post-date text, the Daily Mail reported. The biggest text turn-off was bad spelling, closely followed by abbreviations (such as gr8 and l8r) and then acronyms such as LOL, ROFL or LMAO, revealed the survey, carried out by match.com for their upcoming LoveGeist report.

'Double texting' (not waiting for a reply before sending another text), one word messages and using smiley faces were all also cited as major faux pas for the discerning dater. The survey also found that single men are 60 per cent more likely than women to get a friend to check their post-date texts before sending them. But the burden of post-date 'textiquette' is borne mainly by men, with over half of the single women surveyed saying that the first text after a first date is the responsibility of their date. In fact only 16 per cent of women believe they should take it upon themselves to send the first message.

"In recent years the way we use technology to communicate after a date has made the post-date follow-up more important than ever. Not only do you now need to perform well on the date itself, if your follow-up message isn't up to scratch, then you might be out of contention for a second meeting," the paper quoted Kate Taylor, Match.com's resident relationship expert as saying. Good news for single guys, Taylor has offered some tips to boost your 'Textual Chemistry'. First she said texts should be light-hearted and tantalizing.
According to her, you shouldn't use texts for outpouring emotion, whether positive or negative. A cute message such as 'great to meet you' may help. Guys! Be mysterious. Taylor says you shouldn't feel obliged to answer every text. In fact, it's better if you don't, as they will likely just come running back for more, she said. You shouldn't treat texts like your Facebook status. According to Taylor, sending texts and picture texts of all the fun stuff you're doing all the time won't make you look busy and popular, instead it'll make you look like you're thinking of messages you can send all the time, even when you're out doing fun stuff. And it's not healthy.

Send one text at a time and don't worry if you don't get a reply straight away. And never send a 'Did you get my message?' text because they already got it. So forget you sent it and get on with your day. Keep the text humorous, says Taylor, as mushy message written in a funny way is 100 times more appealing than one written seriously. And it would be less embarrassing if they were to show it to their friends.

Modern men cherish women with brains rather than beauty

                           Modern men cherish women with brains rather than beauty

According to researchers, the narrowing of the gender gap has resulted into change of traditional priorities, when looking for a partner 

Modern men increasingly appreciate women for their brains rather than their looks or skills in the kitchen, a new study has found. However, men still need to take care of their own appearance, because 21st century women are becoming ever more swayed by physical attractiveness and less concerned with finding a wealthy husband. According to the researchers, the narrowing of the gender gap in western countries means that the traditional priorities of both sexes when looking for a partner have shifted.
While men have learned to value women for more than just their curves, women's increasing financial independence means a man's appeal is no longer directly linked to the size of his wallet. For the study, psychologists from York University surveyed 12,000 people in more than 30 countries to find out what their priorities were in choosing a partner. "We found that in societies like Britain, or especially Scandinavia, men place increasing value on other qualities, like intelligence, rather than curvy figures or skill at cooking," the Telegraph quoted Dr Marcel Zentner, who led the study, as telling the Sunday Times.
Zentner also said that women traditionally look for wealthy men who can provide for their children, but those in more equal countries showed less interest in money and placed more importance on appearance. "Men can relax about having to build up wealth but may benefit from looking after their looks a little more," he added. The study has been published in the Psychological Science journal.

 

50% Of Couples Who Share Housework Are Likelier To Divorce

                      Couples who share housework 50 pc likelier to divorce (© Relationship) 

The divorce rate among couples who shared housework equally was around 50 per cent higher than among those where the woman did most of the work, according a study

A Norwegian study has found higher rates of divorce among "modern" couples who share the housework than in those where the wife does a bigger share of domestic responsibilities. The divorce rate among couples who shared housework equally was around 50 per cent higher than among those where the woman did most of the work, according to the study. "What we've seen is that sharing equal responsibility for work in the home doesn't necessarily contribute to contentment," the Daily Mail quoted Thomas Hansen, co-author of the study, as saying. The figures clearly show that "the more a man does in the home, the higher the divorce rate," he said. According to Hansen, the reasons lay only partially with the chores themselves.
But the deeper reasons for the higher divorce rate, he suggested, came from the values of "modern" couples rather than the chores they shared. "Modern couples are just that, both in the way they divide up the chores and in their perception of marriage" as being less sacred, Hansen said. Modern women also have a high level of education and a well-paid job, which makes them less dependent on their spouse financially. This can also be a reason as they can manage much easier if they divorce, he said The study noted that women who did most of the chores did so of their own volition and were found to be as "happy" as "modern" couples.

 

15 Ways to Be Irresistibly Attractive

                                           
Be true to your values.  Be honest.  Do your best.  Do things that bring you closer to your dreams.  Take care of yourself, your family, and your friends.  Treat people with respect.  Be the person that makes others feel special.  Be known for your kindness and honesty.
In other words, invest love into your life.  Because when you love life, life will love you back.  And there’s no attraction greater than love.  People will notice the goodness surrounding you, and they will be naturally attracted to you.

  1. Do the right thing. – Never be afraid to do what you know in your heart is right, especially if the well being of another person’s feelings is at stake. There is no punishment in the world more severe than the wounds we inflict on our soul when we do what we know is wrong.
  2. Stop the gossip and superficial judgments. – Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, and small minds gossip about people.  Life is much too short to be lived talking about people, gossiping, and stirring up trouble that has no substance.  If you don’t understand someone, ask questions.  If you don’t agree with them, tell them.  But don’t judge them behind their back to everyone else.
  3. Lift others up. – If you want to lift yourself up, lift someone else up.  To be happy and free is not merely to cast off one’s chains, but to live in a way that respects and enhances the happiness and freedom of others.  When you put faith, hope, and love together, you can nurture positive ideas, relationships, and dreams in a negative world.
  4. Give words of encouragement to those in need. – A word of encouragement during a failure is worth more than an hour of praise after success.  We all hit a time when we lose hope and need someone to put their arms around us and say, “I’ve got you right now.  You are not facing this alone.”  Be that person when you can.
  5. Be positive. – Think positively; speak properly; apologize rapidly; forgive quickly.  Evolve your being and inspire yourself and others.  Say it out loud, “I am sorry negativity, I have no time for you.  I have far too many positive things to do.”
  6. Embrace your uniqueness. – If you don’t embrace your uniqueness, you will spend your entire life striving to conform to the impossibility of being someone else.  By celebrating what makes you different, rather than wasting time trying to be the same, you will discover your unique gifts that nobody else in the world has.
  7. Do things for fun and passion. – When you stop doing things for fun and passion, you stop living and you start merely existing.  If you truly want to change your life, you must first change your mind and your actions.  Once you are ready to truly devote your time and energy to what calls to your soul, you will find your life unimaginably enriched.
  8. Be gentle. – When you least expect it, something great will come along – something better than you ever planned for.  Mother Nature opens millions of flowers every day without forcing the buds.  Let this be a reminder not to force anything, but to simply give beautiful things enough love and an opportunity to grow naturally.
  9. Drop the need to always be right. – Someone else doesn’t have to be wrong for you to be right.  There are many roads to what’s right.  You cannot judge others by your own past.  They are living a different life than you.  Express your opinions freely and politely, remembering that if your purpose is to ridicule or prove others are wrong, it will only bring bitterness into the world.  Respecting the opinion of others, without judging, always carries more weight than simply being right.
  10. Be loyal.  Be honest. – You can’t promise to love someone for the rest of their life, but you can sincerely love them for the rest of yours.  When it comes to relationships, remaining faithful is never an option, but a priority.  Loyalty and honest affection mean everything.
  11. Be flexible and keep an open mind. – What looks like an obstacle or road block is oftentimes just life steering you in a better direction.  Be flexible and keep an open mind to all the changes that are forcing you to grow, and helping you better align yourself with your vibration and purpose.
  12. Believe in yourself and all that you are. – Know in your heart that there is strength inside you that is greater than the challenges you face.  No one can do it for you – you have to choose to use your wings.
  13. Believe in your dreams. – Who you hope to be someday is already a big part of who you are now.  Your dreams are real.  They do not exist in the past; they live in the present, and when you stay committed to doing what needs to be done, you carry them closer to reality as you walk through the gates of tomorrow.
  14. Walk the talk. – You can make whatever you want out of your life, but first you have to not be afraid to try.  We all have to start with ourselves.  It is time to walk the talk.  Take the journey of making the difficult decisions and taking action.  Start removing things from your life that are taking away your happiness, and start adding things that bring joy in to your life.
  15. Embrace the possibilities of tomorrow. – Don’t let your past dictate who you are, but let it be part of who you will become.  No regrets.  No looking back.  Just hold onto life and move forward.  We have no way of knowing what lies ahead, but that’s what makes the journey even more exciting – that’s what makes life worth living.

11 Promises You Must Make to Yourself

                                  
Make these promises to yourself, and keep them.
  1. “I will accept everything I am, and everything I am not.” – Self-worth comes from one thing: thinking that you are worthy.  So be confident.  Too many days are wasted comparing ourselves to others and wishing to be something we aren’t.  Everybody has their own strengths and weaknesses, and it is only when you accept everything you are, and aren’t, that you will truly find happiness and success. 
  2. “I will appreciate others for who they are.” – Sometimes the way you think about a person isn’t the way they are.  On the outside, maybe they laugh, and maybe they cry; but you would be surprised at everything they keep deep inside.  So pay close attention, and love the people you care about for who they are, and not for who you want them to be.  In the long run, this is how you will get the best of them.
  3. “I will speak kindly and consciously to others.” – Open your mind before you open your mouth.  Don’t mix bad words with a bad mood.  Just be calm and deal with your emotions.  You’ll have many opportunities to change your mood, but you’ll have an extremely tough time recovering the words you have spoken.
  4. “I will speak kindly and consciously to myself.” – Wait, what did you just say to yourself?  Were they the inspiring, comforting words you would speak to a friend?  Or were they the belittling remarks you might shout to an enemy if you had no heart.  Or the negative assessments about life you would utter if you had no faith?  All day long we speak silently to ourselves, and a part of us believes every word.  So stay mindful, and ask yourself, “If I had a friend who always spoke to me in the same way that I am speaking to myself right now, how long would I allow that person to be my friend?”
  5. “I will stop trying to control everything.” – I hate to break it to you, but you can’t control everything in your life no matter how many safeguards you put into place.  But thankfully, you don’t have to control everything to find peace and happiness.  It lives with you always, deep within.  More than getting into the nuances of control itself, you should be more interested in encouraging yourself to commit to giving it up, on purpose.  See what happens when you loosen your grip, throw your hands into the air, and allow life to just happen and flow as it does, without constant micromanagement.  
  6. “I will appreciate the beauty of small moments.” – Positive minds live positive lives.  There is always, always something to be thankful for and something to smile about.  The happiest people are not those who get everything they want; they are those who, while in pursuit of worthy goals, notice and appreciate the beauty and sweetness of everyday moments.
  7. “I will do what I think is right.” – What comes easy won’t always last, and what will last won’t always come easy.  So do the right things, not the easy things.  Whatever comes your way, whatever battle is raging inside you, you always have a choice.  In the end, it’s the choices you make that make you who you are.  And no matter what, you can always choose to do the right thing.
  8. “I will grow from my challenges.” – You can be stunned, awakened, and changed by what happens to you, but choose to grow from it, and refuse to be reduced by it.  Repeat after me: “I am determined to live a happy life no matter my challenges.  I will turn all my tales of fury into tales of glory.  I will turn all of my tales of woe into tales of WOW!”
  9. “I will realize and use my power.” – The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.  In a world filled with doubt, you must dare to dream.  In a world filled with anger, you must dare to forgive.  In a world filled with hate, you must dare to love.  In a world filled with distrust, you must dare to believe.  And once you do, you will find that power you once thought you lacked.
  10. “I will follow the path my heart longs to take.” – Life is too short to live with regrets.  So love the things that make you smile, let go of the things that make you cry, and believe that everything happens for a reason.  Follow the path that your heart longs to take; it’s your time to shine.  If you get a chance, take it.  If it changes your life, let it.  You are far from what you once were, but not yet who you are going to be.
  11. “I will have some fun while I’m doing it all.” – Some people frantically seek a predetermined definition of success as though their entire self-worth depends on whether or not they make it to the top.  Their goals and routines are wound tight around stringent routines that they repeat every single day without stopping to breathe.  And while discipline is important, think about how much better off they’d be if they unwound their vision just a little – like kite string – and ran with it like an optimistic youth, breathing and working, just for the joy of seeing if they can make it touch the clouds.

Friday, September 28, 2012

9 Rules for Turning Endings into New Beginnings


              9 Rules for Turning Endings into New Beginnings
When you can no longer think of a reason to continue, you must think of a reason to start over.  There’s a big difference between giving up and starting over in the right direction.  And there are three little words that can release you from your past regrets and guide you forward to a positive new beginning.  These words are: “From now on…”
So, from now on…
  1. Let the things you can’t control, GO. – Most things are only a part of your life because you keep thinking about them.  Positive things happen in your life when you emotionally distance yourself from the negative things.  So stop holding on to what hurts, and make room for what feels right.  Do not let what is out of your control interfere with all the things you can control.  
  2. Accept and embrace reality. – Life is simple.  Everything happens for you, not to you.  Everything happens at exactly the right moment, neither too soon nor too late.  For everything you lose, you gain something else; and for everything you gain, you lose something else.  You don’t have to like it, but it’s just easier if you do.  So pay attention to your outlook on life.  You can either regret or rejoice; it’s your choice.
  3. Change your mind. – Change is like breath – it isn’t part of the process, it is the process.  In reality the only thing we can count on is change.  And the first step toward positive change is to change your outlook.  Prepare for the positive.  Prepare for the new.  Allow the unknown to take you to fresh and unforeseen areas in yourself.  Growth is impossible without change.  If you cannot change your mind, you cannot change anything in your life.  Sometimes all you need to do is look at things from a different perspective.
  4. Hold tight to the good things. – When life’s struggles knock you into a pit so deep you can’t see anything but darkness, don’t waste valuable energy trying to dig your way out.  Because if you hastily dig in the dark, you’re likely to head in the wrong direction and only dig the pit deeper.  Instead, use what energy you have to reach out and pull something good in with you.  For goodness is bright; its radiance will show you which way is up, and illuminate the correct path that will take you there. 
  5. Rest and regroup. – Strength isn’t about bearing a cross of grief or shame.  Strength is about choosing your path, living with the consequences, and learning from them.  Sometimes you do your best and end up with a mess.  When this happens, don’t be discouraged.  You tried.  That’s really all you can ever do.  You have not failed; you just learned what not to do.  So rest, regroup, and begin again with what you now know.
  6. Take chances. – Making a big life change or trying something new can be scary.  But do you know what’s even scarier?  Regret.  So realize that most of your fears are much bigger in your mind than they are in reality; you’ll see this for yourself as soon as you face them.  Don’t let them stop you.  Live your life so that you never have to regret the chances you never took, the love you never let in, and the gifts you never gave out.
  7. Keep climbing. – Every person who is at the top of the mountain did not fall there from the sky.  Good things come to those who work for them.  You gain confidence and grow stronger by every experience in which you truly push yourself to do something you didn’t think you could do.  If you are standing in that place of in-between, unable or unwilling to go backwards, but too afraid to move forward, remember that you can’t enjoy the view without being willing to climb.
  8. Appreciate what you have learned. – Nothing is more beautiful and powerful than a smile that has struggled through the tears.  Don’t regret your time, even the moments that were filled with hurt.  Smile because you learned from it and gained the strength to rise above it.  In the end, it’s not what you have been through that defines who you are; it’s how you got through it that has made you the person you are today, and the person you are capable of being tomorrow.
  9. Realize every step is necessary. – Nothing is ever wrong.  We learn from every step we take.  Whatever you did today was a necessary step to get to tomorrow.  So be proud of yourself.  Maybe you are not as good as you want to be, or as great as you one day will be; but thanks to all the lessons you’ve learned along the way, you are so much better than you used to be.

Lady Gaga Takes Dig at NYC Politician for "Slut" Swipe, Shows Off Her Body Revolution Onstage



                              Lady Gaga

The pop star has cheekily responded to a politician's skanky attack on her after he called her a "slut" during a bizarre rant in New York City.
But first, some context: Earlier this week, the politician in question, Staten Island Borough President James Molinaro, lashed out at the 26-year-old for recently smoking pot onstage in Amsterdam, saying, "This slut is influencing many, many children.
Lady Gaga labeled a "slut" by NYC politician for onstage pot stunt
That tirade immediately prompted another NYC politico, Manhattan Borough President Scott Stringer, to rush to Mother Monster's defense, calling her a "symbol of individuality and artistic expression."
Lady Gaga
And it was that shout-out from Stringer that eventually prompted Gaga to diss her slut-slinging foe.
In a tweet to Stringer on Thursday, Gaga thanked the politician for his props, writing, "To @scottmstringer of Manhattan, thanku for your support of my activism as a new yorker," and then adding, "You show political integrity + a modern vernacular"—clearly a subversive dig at Molinaro.
Lady Gaga strips down to discuss her battle with bulimia
Chalk it up as another vindication for the pop star, who recently addressed criticism over her weight by tweeting a skimpy photo of herself with the caption "Bulimia and anorexia since I was 15" and encouraging her Little Monsters to "join a body revolution."
She put that body revolution on full display in Zurich this week when she took the stage in skimpy outfits and proudly showed off her figure, days after urging fans to "be brave and post a photo of you that celebrates your triumph over insecurities."

Kristen Stewart Tries Being Faithful in Paris

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She got caught cheating on Robert Pattinson, but philandering girlfriend Kristen Stewart may have been trying to send some sorta mixed message by hitting up a restaurant in Paris on Thursday named La Fidelite ... which in English -- believe it or not -- means "fidelity."

Kristen can't take back what she did, but she can try and eat her words.

Thursday, September 27, 2012

Post-Preggers Kourtney Kardashian's Beach Show Off!


Kourtney Kardashian had her precious daughter Penelope just the other month and she is already rocking Miami Beach alongside sister Kim! You go Kourt! Am not so sure about Kim's futuristic bathing suit though, Cant she breath in those? 

Lady In Black! Gwen Sefani's Hot Tunic!

You dress well in black, Gwen!
Gwen Stefani dressed up in a short tunic and black tights as she went for dinner at a London restaurant. I think she is hot, in a dark and mysterious way.

Rihanna Flaunts Lots of Leg in Tiny Cutoffs

                                             A-List Fashionista! Rihanna's Cray-Cray Sunglasses!
 The 24-year-old beauty puts her toned gams on display in itty bitty shorts. After a looong day of photoshoots, the superstar heads back to her London hotel. In her hand she holds a fashion photography book. cool sunglasses you've got on Riri!
                                         
Have a good read in that fashion book, Rihanna!

Ke$ha I'm a Sexy Leather Warrior Princess

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She's no stranger to weird get-ups, but "Tik Tok" singer Ke$ha took it up a sexy notch by wearing some sorta revealing leather one-legged bathing suit type thing on the set of her "Die Young" music video in L.A. on Wednesday.

While she may have gotten hotter, no word on her singing.

Beyoncé Is Not Pregnant, Says Jay-Z


                                                      
 Rumors as been going around that Beyoncé is pregnant, Blue Ivy isn't becoming a big sister anytime soon.
Despite a flush of rumors claiming Beyoncé  was pregnant, Jay-Z said he and his wife are not expecting their second child just yet, Jay said No, Not in one, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight or nine months."Hear that, rumormongers.

Reese Witherspoon Welcomes a Baby Boy!



Reese Witherspoon, Jim Toth
The Oscar winner and husband Jim Toth welcomed their first child together, son Tennessee James Toth, on Thursday. "Reese Witherspoon and husband Jim Toth welcomed Tennessee James into their family today," her rep says. "Both mom and baby are healthy and the entire family is thrilled."

Wednesday, September 26, 2012

What do you do when your husband rape you?


This is a story I came across and just have to share on there.
A 33 year old woman, who as been married for a year and a half, mother of 3 who just delivered her last baby 7 weeks ago.

  I think my husband just raped me. 

 My husband and I don't have the greatest relationship. We're broke, I'm a SAHM (with a nursing degree), our communication skills are lacking and there's very little affection (mostly due to me). The other night, hubby decided that even though it hadn't been 6 weeks since I had delivered our son, he wanted to have sex. I told him that I wasn't ready, for a multitude of reasons that I didn't go in to, but most importantly, I told him "no " numerous times. I rolled over, pushed his hands away, even tried to get out of bed. He forced himself on me and even hurt me because there was no lubricant. I must admit that although he's my husband, I feel violated, disrespected and traumatized. I'm not sure how to handle this. Any feedback would be appreciated.

DMX Lashes Back at Fredro Starr -- 'He's 4 ft. Tall & ALL TALK'


DMX is returning fire in his war with Onyx rapper Fredro Starr -- DMX said, he ain't one bit afraid of the guy's death threats ... claiming, Starr's "a midget" who "can't even reach my knee."X says, "I am not worried about him ... All he is is a sitcom Moesha gangsta. He should just stick to being a reality gangsta cause that's about all he's good for." (FYI, Starr appeared on the show "Moesha" back in the 90s.)In case you don't know, DMX is responding to a video Starr posted on YouTube, in which Starr freestyles, "This n***a X talking sh*t right now, If he ever try it again/He be in front of the firing pen/If his crew front, there be a lot of dying men/At the funeral, family and crying friends."Starr laid down the death threat rap after DMX went on a radio show last week, and claimed Starr once got an ass-whupping by one of X's baby mamas. X is blowing off the drama ... claiming Starr "is just trying to use me to get back in the music scene."

Whitney Houston's Daughter Bobbi Kristina Involved in BAD Car Accident

Whitney Houston's daughter Bobbi Kristina was involved in a scary car accident in Georgia DESTROYING the entire front end of the vehicle. The black 2012 Camaro belongs to Bobby's boyfriend Nick Gordon and according to sources close to Bobbi, Nick was driving Sunday night in Alpharetta, GA ... with Bobbi in the passenger seat ... when the accident happened. The details surrounding the accident are unclear, but source said the couple had been arguing at the time of the crash -- and Nick's Camaro was the only car involved. No one was injured. After the accident, the car was missing the front right tire, the front bumper was torn off, and the airbags were deployed -- but somehow it. got back to Bobbi and Nick's apartment. Cops went to the apartment soon after the accident for a noise complaint, but no one answered the door. According to the incident report, officers saw the car parked outside the apartment with its hazard lights on -- and it appeared it had been driven in a damaged state. The accident is currently under investigation. Calls to Bobbi's people were not returned.

Snooki and Baby Lorenzo Cuddle Up With Teddy!


This is just too cute! Snooki, who hasn't been shy about sharing photos of baby Lorenzo, couldn't help but tweet snaps of her little one cuddling up with her and a teddy bear. "Lorenzo and Teddy", the Jersey Shore star tweeted Monday, along with the Instagram snap. Awww! The hot mama recently showed off her banging post-baby body Sunday, looking slim and trim just one month after giving birth.

Tuesday, September 25, 2012

Happy Birthday, Will Smith! Men in Black Star Turns 44


Two decades later and Will Smith is still fresh. The Men in Black superstar, who catapulted to fame on the Fresh Prince of Bel-Air turns 44 today! And with his lovely wife Jada Pinkett Smith on his arm, superstar kids and an über-successful career, it's safe to say this multi-talented thesp has a lot to be thankful for. "I enjoy the gifts that I have," Will said recently. "At the end of the day, I'm a dude from Philly who didn't go to college, traveling the world making movies. I'm blessed and I don't got nothing to complain about." Albeit rumors of a split and one gnarly (and unwanted) kiss from a rogue reporter, Smith's road to 44 has been relatively void of drama, full of family time and sprinkled with big moments like hosting duties at the Kids' Choice Awards and the premiere of Men in Black 3. And that's even more reason to celebrate.

Madonna Calls Barack Obama the "Black Muslim in the White House" During Politically Charged Spiel


Madonna's rocking the vote--and rocking some controversy while she's at it. (Try not to look so shocked.) On Monday night, the pop star took the stage in Washington, D.C., where, during a lull between songs, she urged the roaring crowd to reelect President Barack Obama...but not before firing off a head-scratching battle cry. What feud? Madonna now gaga over Gaga, says they'll share the stage "very soon" "So, you all better vote for f--kin' Obama, OK?" she exhorted concertgoers. "For better or for worse, all right, we have a black Muslim in the White House!" It wasn't clear whether Madge was being earnest or sarcastic or just plain ignorant, but the tidbit figured prominently into a cuss-filled, patriotic spiel about trailblazing political leaders, in which she name-checked luminaries like Abraham Lincoln and Martin Luther King Jr. Aside from giving a shout to Obama's historic election--"Now that's the s--t, it means there is hope in this country," she raved--the 54-year-old also praised the president for "fighting for gay rights." Madonna loses swastika for France concert after legal threat The rant capped off a concert tour already rife with in-your-face political overtones and politicized stunts--she did, after all, incite the ire of a French political party after slapping a swastika onto the forehead of its leader. But she also combed darker themes throughout the show, including a montage of polarizing figures like Sarah Palin and Pope Benedict XVI, as well as unnerving flashes of gunplay and prisoner torture during songs like "Revolver" and "Gang Bang." Guess simply flashing your nips and bum just ain't cutting it for Madge these days.

Lady Gaga Strips Down to Discuss Bulimia Battle in Wake of Weight-Gain Criticism


Lady Gaga knows that outer-beauty isn't everything. On Tuesday, the 26-year-old pop star posted a revealing photo of herself wearing only a bra and underwear on LittleMonsters.com. She tweeted to her fans to "join A BODY REVOLUTION," and captioned the somber photo of herself "Bulimia and anorexia since I was 15." She also posted another lingerie shot of herself. "To inspire Bravery. and BREED some m$therf*cking COMPASSION," she wrote. "My mother and I created the BORN THIS WAY FOUNDATION for one reason: 'to inspire bravery,'" Gaga wrote. "This profile is an extension of that dream. Be brave and celebrate with us your 'perceived flaws,' as society tells us. May we make our flaws famous, and thus redefine the heinous." She also asked fans to "be brave and post a photo of you that celebrates your triumph over insecurities." Gaga addressed the snarky comments (including The Talk hosts speculating about a possible pregnancy) about her figure during a recent chat with radio host Elvis Duran on his syndicated morning show. "I'm dieting right now because I gained, like, 25 pounds," she said. "I really don't feel bad about it, not even for a second. I have to be on such a strict diet constantly. It's hard because it's a quite vigorous show, so I tend to bulk up, get muscular, and I really don't like that. So I'm trying to find a new balance.

Angelina Jolie "Perfect" in Maleficent: "She Is Born to Play That Role"


I believe am not the only ones who think Angelina Jolie looks perfect for the part of Maleficent. The producer of the upcoming Disney fairy tale flick says the Oscar-winning actress is doing a stellar job playing Sleeping Beauty's villain. "Maleficent is coming together great," Don Hahn said. "She is born to play that role. "She looks like the character," Hahn gushed. "She's this gorgeous, beautiful woman who has a past and she's just perfect for it." We'll also be seeing Jolie and Brad Pitt's 4-year-old daughter Vivienne make her acting debut in the film. "[Vivienne] plays her as a younger character which is really sweet," Hahn said. "She has such a sweet family."

Johnny Depp In Manhattan!




Ay ay captain! Johnny Depp was greeted by a bunch of super duper excited fans outside of his hotel in Manhattan, NYC. Anyhow very kind of him to stay and sign autographs, such a good guy!

OMG! Kanye West's Private Sex Tapes Were Stolen!


It looks like Kanye West has more in common with his girlfriend Kim Kardashian than we knew before... Just the other day not only one, but two of his private sex tapes were stolen, and now they're on the market and will be shopped to the highest bidder. But Kanye desperately tries to deny that there even is a sex tape out there, while sources says one of them actually features Kim K! O-M-G! Well, we guess we'll only have to wait and see... Eh.

Hey Kim Kardashian! Bootylicious Jumpsuit You've Got On!




Kim Kardashian looked classy and chic as she went shopping in Miami Beach with best friend Jonathan Cheban. It seems like Kanye West is still working his magic as Kim's personal stylist... What do you say guys, is she a hottie or a nottie in this look?!

Justin Bieber: Sean Kingston's A Liar -- I Didn't Gift Him My Car!


Sean Kingston is LYING through his pearly white teeth ... 'cause Justin Bieber DID NOT "gift" him his customized Fisker Karma. Kingston began the charade in front of Boa this weekend ... when he rolled up to the steak joint in JB's  chromed-out car and told photogs Justin had given it to him as a gift ... as a perk of their friendship. But sources close to the The Biebs says Kingston's pants are COMPLETELY on fire -- truth is, Sean asked Justin if he could BORROW the car to go to dinner since Bieber is on tour ... and Justin obliged. Now, the car is back in Justin's garage -- and we're guessing Kingston's driving privileges have been suspended indefinitely. Kingston's people say he was just joking when he said JB gave him the whip.

Wiz Khalifa Classic Car WRECKAGE in Alleged Hit-n-Run


Wiz Khalifa's beautiful blue 1969 Chevy Chevelle was MANGLED in an alleged hit-and-run crash last week ... and TMZ has the heart-breaking photo. the LAPD launched an investigation after a woman filed a report claiming the rapper smashed into her ride on Wednesday after a music video shoot and then fled the scene. Now, sources say Wiz actually hit 2 cars ... including a Lexus, which sustained serious damage to the front end. One source who was at the scene tells TMZ the Chevy was leaving the video shoot when the driver punched the gas and lost control ... slamming into the Lexus, which caromed into another car. The women in the 3rd car claims Wiz fled from the scene -- she has since filed a hit-and-run report with police. If he did run from the scene, it wasn't in his Chevelle TMZ reached out to Wiz -- so far, no word back.

Jennifer Lopez: Judge Dismisses $10 Million Lawsuit Against Singer


Jennifer Lopez can rest easy now that a $10 million lawsuit filed against her has been dismissed. The lawsuit came about two years ago when Lopez's attorneys sent cease-and-desist letters to her former hubby Ojani Noa, his business partner Ed Meyer and producer Claudia Vazquez while they were working on a film for Telemundo called I Owe JLo. The film was set to tell details about Lopez's failed marriage to Noa, but when the "Dance Again" singer allegedly interfered with the flick's production, causing it to be "unmarketable," according to Vazquez, the producer sued her for $10 million for tortious interference. While Vazquez claimed the film would be a "comedic parody of Noa's life crafted almost entirely from the material that is already in the public domain," Lopez said the movie would reveal information that could be damaging to her career. Prior to Vazquez's lawsuit, Lopez sued Noa and Meyer for $10 million for breach of contract, violation of publicity rights, invasion of privacy, and more, after Vazquez entered into a production agreement with Meyer to produce a film about Noa's life, which would've included details about his marriage to Lopez. As a result of that suit, the actress was able to obtain an injunction to stop production on a film called, How I Married Jennifer Lopez: The JLO and Ojani Noa Story, which Noa and Meyer were working on. Although Vazquez was named in the cease-and-desist letters Lopez sent to stop that film, she was not included in the aforementioned lawsuit against Noa and Meyer. Vazquez was working on a different project--I Owe JLo--at the time, and turned around and filed suit against Lopez when the film came to a standstill in light of Lopez's threats. Lopez tried to shut down Vazquez's lawsuit at the time with an anti-SLAPP motion, but while a judge agreed Vazquez's claims arose from constitutionally protected free speech, a trial court said Vazquez still had chance of winning the case. Why? Because, according to the court, Vazquez may have been able to approve that the injunction did not involve her and Lopez's actions did cause the movie to not get made. Lopez still appealed that ruling, however, and Monday she won. The appellate court determined Vazquez could not base her case on Lopez's cease-and-desist letter because it is a "privileged legal communication that can't be used in court." I guess that (finally) settles that.

Snooki Shows Off Slim Post-Baby Body in Short, Tight Dress


Snooki is one hot mama! Just one month after giving birth to baby Lorenzo, the Jersey Shore star showed off her svelte, petite figure in an Instagram photo posted Sunday. Wearing a short, fitted dress that was part leopard print (naturally) and part black, the pint-size was all smiles alongside three of her "besties." But while Snooki still likes getting glammed up with her girlfriends, she really loves being a mommy. She's posted a series of Instagram photos of herself and her little angel. Monday night she posted a shot of herself kissing Lorenzo with the caption, "Love you." Motherhood suits Snooki!

Monday, September 24, 2012

50 Ways to Nurture Your Happiness









                                 
  1. Act like today is already an awesome day. – Do so, and it will be.  Research shows that although we think that we act because of the way we feel, in fact we often feel because of the way we act.  A great attitude always leads to great experiences.
  2. Make yourself smile first thing in the morning. – It’s difficult to feel down when your face is happy.  Fill your bathroom or bedroom mirror with post-it notes of your favorite quotes, goals, mantras, photos, etc., and then reflect on them for a minute or two when you first wake up.
  3. Spend time with people who make you smile. – Who nourishes and supports you?  Surround yourself with these people.  Spend time with those who reflect the person you want to be – people who do good things and make your life a little brighter simply by being in it.
  4. Try something totally new. – Go somewhere you’ve never been.  Do something you’ve never done.  It will shake up your vision of what the world is like and give you a fresh new perspective on things.  Variety truly is the spice of life.  You can see or do something a million times, but you can only see or do it for the first time once.  As a result, first time experiences usually leave a reflective mark in our minds for the rest of our lives.  So spice it up!  The more experiences you have, the richer your life will be.
  5. Work on something that’s meaningful to you. – Engage yourself in a meaningful personal project, or pull the trigger on doing something you’ve wanted to do for a long time, but haven’t yet had the resolve to do.  Life is short.  Today is the day to take action.
  6. Keep track of the things you’re grateful for. – You can’t help but feel good when you literally count your blessings.  Start a gratitude journal and express your thanks on a daily basis.
  7. Dream big. – You can do anything you set your mind to.  Visualize your dreams coming true and work at making them a reality.
  8. Listen to your inner voice. – Your instincts are good.  It’s important to listen to your own head and heart.  Don’t always listen to others.  Do what you know in your heart is right, for you.
  9. Trust yourself. – You are kind.  You are smart.  You are important.  Your choices are just as valid as anyone else’s.
  10. Truly appreciate those around you. – Tell your friends you adore them, say thank you and mean it, flash your biggest and most sincere smile at strangers on the street, hug people for longer than normal.  The more love you give out, the more it builds inside of you and the more you’ll get back.
  11. Give out compliments. – Give sincere praise every chance you get.  Compliment and cheer for those who deserve it.  You’ll be hitting two birds with one stone, because when the person you compliment smiles, you’ll smile too.
  12. Call an old friend and reminisce. – There are few things more satisfying than recounting some of the greatest moments of your life with your closest friends who lived these moments alongside you.
  13. Be vibrant and colorful. – Express yourself.  Inject energetic colors into the atmosphere at work and at home.  If not in dress, then in words and deeds.  The world has enough grey!  Be the antidote!  
  14. Be silly. – Sometimes we take ourselves entirely too seriously.  Let go.  Be spontaneous and outrageous.  Sometimes you just need a good laugh to lift your spirits.
  15. Slow down. – When you’re living your life at top speed, you’re missing most of it.  Stop and take a breath.  Look for ways to adopt a more humane pace.  Pay close attention to what you’re doing.  Don’t waste time juggling forgettable tasks.  Instead, concentrate on a few things that really matter.  Engage fully in each day.
  16. Be present. – Life is happening right now.  Instead of dwelling on the past, or worrying about the future, just practice being and living in the ‘now.’  You can’t learn something new or uncover a new opportunity that’s happening now if your mind is stuck in another time.  Remember, right now is the only moment guaranteed to you.  Right now is life.  Don’t miss it.
  17. Disconnect from the world for a little while. – Shut off your electronics, phone, computer and television.  So many of us use technology to distract ourselves and keep our minds busy when we would be far better served by just sitting still and learning to relax.  It’s not healthy to be plugged in and accessible 24/7.
  18. Take a deep breathing break every hour. – Take a deep breath, and another, and another.  It’s like a mini-break to reset yourself during the day.
  19. Move your body. – Run, jump, climb a tree, take a dancing class, power walk – anything that feels good that gets your blood moving.  The only limitation:  it has to be fun.  Don’t get on a treadmill if you hate the treadmill.
  20. Stretch. – Take a few minutes for a good muscle stretch.  It gets the blood moving, fires up your brain and it gives you a few moments to unwind and get grounded before you start the next task.  Plus, it just feels good too.
  21. Take a walk without a destination. – A brisk walk is a great way to get some exercise and clear your mind.  Enjoy the breeze, breathe the fresh air, and be mindful of what you see, hear and feel.
  22. At least once a week, do something that’s only for you. – Remember that hobby that you used to have time for, or that food that no one else in your house likes?  Indulge in it.  Reclaim it for yourself.
  23. Dress up and do something fun. – Get all dressed up and go out dancing, or to an event.  It’s a good way to inject a little excitement into your routine and let loose.
  24. Listen to good music. – Listen to music that motivates you.  Put on your favorite song, turn it up loud and sing.
  25. Do, watch, or listen to something that makes you laugh. – Laughter is the best medicine.  And some of the most memorable moments in your life will be moments spent in laughter.
  26. Buy or pick fresh flowers every now and then. – Brighten up your place.  The aroma and sight of flowers is comforting.
  27. Get more sunshine. – Go to the beach or park.  Bask in the warming rays of the sun.
  28. Take a hot bath. – Add some bubbles.  Sink into your tub for a long, luxurious soak at the end of the day.
  29. Get enough sleep. – Everything is harder when you’re tired.  An exhausted mind is rarely happy and productive.
  30. Stand tall. – Your spirit can’t soar when you slouch.  You will feel much more powerful and capable when you stand up straight and look the world in the eye.
  31. Declutter your space. – Purge everything in your life, both physical and mental, that you don’t honestly need, use or love.  The excess distracts you from your true intentions and bogs you down.  
  32. Purge bad habits and negative influences. – Anything that doesn’t nourish or support you – unhealthy foods, cigarettes, a miserable work environment, toxic people – get these things under control and do what you have to do to set boundaries and demand the highest quality of life.  You deserve it.
  33. Plan ahead. – With a few minutes of organizing your time and to-do’s, you will be better prepared to take on the day.
  34. Stop procrastinating. – Start taking action to tie loose ends.  Putting something off instantly makes it harder and scarier.
  35. Allow yourself some private time each day. – Even if it’s only for a half hour, go on a fun excursion by yourself, read a book or spend time with your pet.
  36. Get things off your chest. – Bottling everything up indefinitely will end badly.  Say what you need to say.  Do what you need to do.  Also, write in a journal.  Write down anything that calls to you, ideas, experiences, dreams, frustrations – get them out of your head and down on paper.
  37. Be kind. – Be nice to someone else.  Help them.  Trust me, it will help you smile, and you will have made the world a better place.
  38. Tell someone you love them. – We often forget to say it out loud.  It matters.
  39. Make a new friend. – People are interesting creatures, and no two people are exactly alike.  So meet someone new today.  Find out what makes them tick.  They’ll likely open your eyes to fascinating ideas and perspectives.  And you never know, they just might change your life.
  40. Spend quality time with children. – Children live by their instincts openly and without hesitation.  They are enthusiastic about life, eager to learn, and curious about everything.  Watch how they play, how they live, how they create, how they ask questions, how they daydream, etc.  Play with them and admire their innocence.
  41. Cut yourself some slack. – We sometimes hold ourselves to impossible standards and then beat ourselves up when we don’t meet them.
  42. Take pride in the hard times that you have overcome. – What didn’t kill you made you stronger.  It wasn’t easy, but you got through it.
  43. Keep your words positive. – Happiness and negativity cannot coexist.
  44. Make your home a haven. – Your home should be a place where you can take a breath and really relax.  If it isn’t, you may have some work to do.
  45. Get your finances in order. – Manage your money wisely so your money does not manage you.  Always live well below your means.
  46. Volunteer or make a donation. – Can you offer time, money, your voice or influence?  In life, you get what you put in.  Being reminded that the world is bigger than your bubble can inspire and uplift you.  When you make a positive impact in someone else’s life, you also make a positive impact in your own life.  Do something that’s greater than you, something that helps someone else to be happy or to suffer less.  I promise, it will be an extremely rewarding experience – one you’ll likely remember forever.
  47. Say “yes” to a spontaneous opportunity. – Everything in life can’t be planned.  Some of the greatest opportunities will knock on your door when you least expect them to.  Be flexible, be spontaneous, and just say “yes.”
  48. Forgive someone and reconnect with them. – Grudges are a waste of perfect happiness.  If there’s someone in your life who deserves another chance, give it to them.  If you need to apologize, do it.  Give your story together a happy ending.
  49. Read something that inspires and motivates you.
  50. Smile and notice what’s right, right now. – Everything that happens in life is neither good or bad.  It just depends on your perspective.  And no matter how it turns out, it always ends up just the way it should.  Either you succeed or you learn something.  So stay positive, appreciate the pleasant outcomes, and learn from the rest.
And remember, happiness is often found by enjoying the small things in life all while chasing after the big ones.  Take life one step at a time, breathe, and enjoy the journey.